What threatens your peace?
Like, really gets you rattled?
Do you even know? Have you ever given thought to identifying the things that throw off the very peace that keeps you breathing in this life?
I mean, we’re nothing without peace… We lose sleep, we eat too much or not enough, we slip into a depression, we consume ourselves in fear, etc.
Peace is your ability to experience joy & contentment despite the conditions of your life. You can be going through a hellish storm and still experience peace. In the same way, you can be experiencing everything you ever wanted to in life and have a lack of peace in your heart.
Wouldn’t you agree that having the ability to protect your own peace is a desirable power to have? Most of life’s struggles stem from turbulence in our inner peace. My peace is different from yours, and yours from mine, but the outcome is always the same. When someone or something throws off our peace, we’re left in this sort of toxic rut.
So how do you protect your peace?
Well it’s hard to answer in a general sense, because everyone truly does have different triggers. The feeling of comparison throws off my peace. People not understanding my heart and judging me throws me off. Running late throws me off. Confrontation throws me off. And when my skin breaks out… FORGET IT.
I’ve heard the phrase “guard your heart” more times than I’m willing to admit, but it never actually meant something to me until I had to. I’ve had to learn how to protect myself. By myself. & for myself. I’ve realized that it’s my responsibility to guard my heart. And not only that, but it’s worth it to do. I found out that my heart is a precious place and the condition of it determines the outcome of my life (both in the day-to-day & long term). ((read my blog post about matters of the heart here))
What price are you willing to pay to protect your peace?
First things first. Get comfortable with asking for help. I didn’t realize how prideful I can be, until I realized how much I wasn’t asking for help. Think clearly about the people, places, things in your life that cause you unease… And then think about how beneficial some help would be.
I don’t know what that help looks like for you. But you don’t have to do everything on your own, and you shouldn’t. Asking for help in peace-robbing areas of our lives is a healthy thing to do, not a sign of weakness.
I’ve found that the people who complain the most are those struggling to manage their own peace. And when you’re struggling, it seems like an appropriate time to ask for help. We aren’t meant to do this life alone.
I reached out to a therapist for help. I was having a hard time sorting my own thoughts because I was too overwhelmed with the thoughts of others. I had somewhat lost myself. I knew I needed help when I could no longer think for myself. It robbed me of every ounce of peace that I had (and at the time, that wasn’t much). But seeking that outsider’s perspective was exactly what I needed to heal and to manage and to protect my peace.
Secondly, in order to have any chance at protecting your peace, you need to believe in something bigger than yourself.
If you read my blogs then maybe you’ve picked up on that I’m big on self awareness and self love, but I’m not naive to the fact that we’re only human. We fail. A LOT. & that failure is what throws off our peace. But it doesn’t have to…
We don’t have to put all of the weight on our shoulders. God says to come boldly to the thrown of grace with whatever it is that you have. (Hebrews 4:16) He says to cast ALL of your worries onto him. (1 Peter 5:7) That’s a whole heck of a lot better than casting them onto yourself, right? Actively believing in something more, something bigger than you brings the peace like never before. It brings your heart and mind rest. You can breathe in this state of mind; knowing that the universe has your back, amen?
Alone, we are destructive. To both ourselves and the souls we interact with. So don’t isolate yourself so much so that you think that you’re in this alone. That it’s all on you & up to you. It’s not… You’re loved, big time. And you are never, ever alone. No matter how much you think you’ve screwed up. You really have nothing to lose by believing. But you have everything to lose by forfeiting your peace to your own ego.
Lastly, the key to protecting your peace is letting go of unforgiveness.
I know that this is so cliche and so overused, but peace and unforgiveness really cannot coexist. Unfortunately. Trust me, I hate this so much. There are people and things and places that as I’m typing this post, I refuse to forgive. I don’t want to with a single fiber of my being. In fact, I want them to know how much I hurt. I want them to understand my pain. But they may never, and I have to get okay with that. And even if they did, would that really make me feel better? Probably not. I’m holding onto unforgiveness and I know it. It’s absolutely (currently) robbing me of my peace and I know that too.
So knowing first hand how toxic unforgivness is, I implore you to be stronger than me and let it go. Sometimes it takes time. Lots of time. But at some point you have to choose to forgive. Choose to forgive those that have hurt you, the experiences that traumatized you, the places that changed you and choose to forgive yourself. Shame and guilt are absolutely toxic… but that’s for another blog post.
It comes back to knowing for yourself the price that you’re willing to pay for your peace. Some go their entire lives without ever realizing the value behind their peace. But you don’t have to… You can start today… right now… by placing a value on your peace & doing everything in your power to protect it. Get rid of the junk in your heart to create more space for your peace.
I’ve learned that life is full of various types of storms that are intended to rob you of your peace. Various obstacles, decisions, highs & lows. Things that are intended to magnify our brokenness to both ourselves and others. But that does not mean that you can’t have peace through it all. I believe that we are our best, most beautiful versions of ourselves when we’re at peace. Our glow shines through in the lights of our eyes. Our truth vibrates out in the sound of our voice. Our softened heart radiates through our touch.
Peace is beautiful. It’s Devine. It’s valuable. And it’s yours, if you’ll take it.